🚀 Transform Your Interactions: 🎖️ Ensure Others Feel Safe and Respected

Hello dear Shiny Minds!😍

Today, I want to talk to you about safety and how you, as a human being, can cultivate safety and trust in others. And of course, why that is important.

The whole reason I created Neuro-Shine Technology™, as the technology for truth, is this: at the core of each and every single one of us, as human beings, we want to be safe, seen, heard, and appreciated by others.

This is the fundamental truth of being human.

And that's why I want you to focus on this very basic principle when you are reading this post.

As I share four ideas for you to make others feel safe around you, please remember, safety comes first.

Understanding the Role of Amygdala

Let me remind you, this is your brain, specifically your emotional brain, the limbic system.

In this system, there is a part called the amygdala.

The amygdala is responsible for your survival—not only your physical survival but also for your emotional survival. 

The survival of your opinions, values, beliefs, goals, perspectives, and ideas.

So because of the amygdala and how we are hardwired as human beings, safety comes first.

If you're not safe, you're not going to stay in that environment.

Am I right?

That's why you need to integrate language patterns, thinking patterns, and behavior patterns that make yourself and others feel safe around you.

1. STOP DISMISSING PEOPLE’S PERPECTIVES 🫸

What do I mean by that?

You may not even realize you are doing this, but especially if you have an avoidant attachment style from your childhood or your upbringing, you might be unconsciously dismissing people.

When someone says, "This is how I feel", you might be telling them, "No, no, no."

"Don't feel that way."

That's a big red flag.

Do not do that.

People have the right to feel the way they feel, just like you do.

They will feel unsafe around you if you don't listen to what they have to say.

Remember that the amygdala is always looking for danger, and acting in a way that doesn't seem important can set it off.

2. STOP CRITICIZING THEIR STYLE ❌

It's possible that their style is different from yours.

They might be more passionate than you, or you might be more smart.

Knowing the differences between people is very important.

Take a personality test, like the one at 16personalities.com, to find out how they and you think.

It's not helpful to criticize someone for being more emotional or rational than you are.

People can change, but they have to want to.

The math for my Neuroshine Technology is easy to understand:

Change = Awareness × Willingness

If someone doesn't want to change, it doesn't matter how much you warn them.

If you want to make people feel safe, stop attacking them. 

3. STOP TELLING THEM WHAT TO DO ✋

Can you relate to this?

If someone tells you, "You need to stop doing this and start doing that," you might think, "Leave me alone. It's up to me to decide."

You have your own freedom and identity.

The same applies to others.

When you tell people what to do, you trigger their amygdala, making them feel unsafe and defensive.

They might fight back or avoid you altogether.

Instead of telling them what to do, respect their autonomy.

Allow them to decide for themselves without feeling controlled or directed by you.

4. ACCEPT THEM AS THEY ARE 🩷

Accepting others as they are is crucial.

If you want to feel safe around others, you must give them the same acceptance.

This starts with accepting yourself.

Stop dismissing your truths, judging yourself, and being overly critical.

Start forgiving yourself and accepting your flaws.

Personal growth begins with self-acceptance.

By accepting yourself, you can better accept others, fostering trust and safety in your relationships.

There you have it.

I truly hope you get a lot out of this post.

This is one of the most critical topics for improving your relationships.

Whenever you feel something is wrong in your relationships, remember that you might have triggered someone's amygdala.

If this resonates with you, please like it and share it with others.

Let's all become more aware of the amygdala and how we can cultivate trust and safety in those around us.

It's awesome to be a member of the Shiny Minds Global Community, where we strive to create a better world with more love and shiny minds. 🌟

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by Shiny Burcu Unsal ✨