How To Get Rid Of Your Shyness

Today, our topic is shyness. I almost wanted to say there is a way to go from shyness to shininess, but I didn't.😊

We will talk about the definition of shyness, the psychology behind it, and the mindset tricks to destroy it. And, of course, I will give you some incredible tips that you can apply right away, and that's why I'm claiming that you'll destroy it after watching my video below.

What Is Shyness? Why Are You Shy?

Let me tell you, my shiny mind: you might be feeling shy because that's fear. You are probably fearful of what people will say about you, and you're probably focusing more on the negative voices you hear in your mind. And it is also very possible that the people you have been surrounded by.

Shyness is not your personality. You don't need to stay shy, silent, quiet, sit in the corner, and say nothing. That is not supposed to be how you're going to live your life.

There is a way to change it because shyness is not a personality trait. It is that mindset problem.

The Formula of the Change

Change = awareness x willingness. When you are aware of something and willing to change it, guess what? You change it. So, take your shyness. The Change for your shyness will look like, "okay, I am aware that I am shy multiplied by yes, I am willing to do something different to get rid of my shyness", right?

So that is how it's going to look like. And awareness is also going to look like for you to one-stop care too much about what people will think or say about you. 

1. Stop Caring Too Much About What People Say About You

I'm saying this because I told you that the definition of shyness actually is a mindset problem. If you are not focusing on what people are going to say about you, if you are only focusing on you, what you're going to say, how you're going to show up, how you're going to communicate, then it is going to be just about you.

You're probably not focusing on you, my darling; you are probably focusing on others. And you are doing it with a lot of fear and anxiety. Am I right? If I am right, then you must stop it. 

2. Start Focusing On What Can Go Right Instead Of What Can Go Wrong 

As part of your awareness and willingness, you also need to. What do I mean by that? You are probably going to a social environment, sitting at a table, and you are shutting up and thinking. When I say something, I'm going to hurt somebody, or I'm going to say something inappropriate, and somebody is not going to like it. If they don't like it, I'm not going to feel good about myself, which means I'm not good enough and which means I'm not worthy. This is the whole psychology, right? 

Instead of thinking like this, start focusing on your beautiful qualities. You and I are having this dialogue because you know there is more for you. You can maximize your potential, so you're here and focusing on your qualities and strengths. What you can bring to the table will help you get rid of your shyness. 

3. Listen To Your Empowering Conversation Inside Of You 

Listen, you do have different parts inside of you. You almost like having a team upstairs, and your team consists of different parts of you. There is a critical part of you. Your inner critic. There is this cheerful part of you that cheers you on. There is this empowering part of you that empowers you every time you feel down, and then there is also this disempowering sabotaging part of you that tells you so many things that are going to go wrong. People are going not to like you, and you're going to feel alone. Please don't say that and don't behave like that, remember what happens before you set something and people didn't enjoy it and then you had problems. So, you don't want to go to that. And there is this like protector inside of you, so that protector is going to do whatever it takes to stop you from raising your voice and standing for what you believe, and then you're going to go ahead and assume that you are a shy person.

Maybe you're not a shy person. Perhaps you're just focusing on what is wrong. Listen, we have all different parts of us and we communicate with them. For example, you have this inner critic that always talks to you. It is criticizing you and others you have this self-sabotage, stopping you from achieving what you want. You also have this empowering part of you that motivates you to get what you want, and then you have this cheerful part of you that just wants to have fun and enjoy every time. So, you have so many parts of you.

The idea is to be aware of which voice you are listening to, want to hug, and sit down and have a conversation inside your beautiful Shiny Mind. It all comes down to the type of choices you make, and that's why you want to be aware and willing to get rid of your shyness. And if you're talking about a personality trait, guess what? You might be an introvert.

I understand that introverts are different than extroverts, and it doesn't mean that you don't like to socialize with other people. That's not what introvert is all about. The introvert is how you use your mind and what kind of information you take from your environment. It is the amount of information. And you are okay with less information, which is okay. It doesn't make you a shy person.

So that's why you want to ask yourself. Am I a shy person?

Just remember, if you are not a shy person, if this shyness is part of your nervous system that is protecting you from outside potential dangers, remind yourself that you are safe. Hearing what people say about you is not going to kill you. You're going to survive, trust me? You got this, okay? 🥰

With love ❤️

Shiny Burcu Unsal