Human Superpower: How To Make People Feel Safe, Seen, Heard & Appreciated 💝

Hello Shiny Minds,

As we get closer to the holiday season in some countries and the year-end review season of 2024 for all countries, I wanted to talk about relationships today.

Since the quality of our relationships - especially with ourselves and then with others - determine the overall quality of our life.

I've spent a significant portion of my life (since 2003 - after reading a book about NLP) studying how we think, learn, unlearn, create and connect to the world within us, as well as to the world around us.

And since 2011 I've been helping people create meaningful connections; again, especially with themselves, and then with others.

So I can confidently state that our deepest human need in a healthy relationship is to feel safe, seen, heard, appreciated and FREE to be whoever we want to be.

Let's start with the basics.

Imagine a world where everyone felt truly accepted and understood.

A world where fear and judgment didn't hold us back.

It's a beautiful vision, isn't it?

But how do we achieve this?

I've learned that the best way to make others feel safe is to start by feeling safe within ourselves.

This means accepting our flaws, embracing our uniqueness, and forgiving ourselves for our mistakes.

Here are a few simple yet powerful practices that can cultivate trust and safety in our relationships:

1. Listen without judgment

When someone shares their thoughts or feelings, try to truly understand their perspective.

Avoid jumping to conclusions or offering unsolicited advice.

2. Respect their boundaries

Everyone has their own comfort level.

Respect their boundaries and avoid pushing them.

3. Be authentic

Show your true self.

Authenticity fosters trust and connection.

4. Practice empathy

Put yourself in the other person's shoes.

Try to understand their emotions and experiences.

Remember, it's a journey.

Building trust and safety takes time and effort.

There will be setbacks, but with patience and persistence, we can create a world where everyone feels valued and connected.

Made with love ❤️ for a better world with more #love ❤️ and #ShinyMinds in it...

by Shiny Burcu Unsal ✨